Agarwaen

So, I’ve read a lot of stuff today about “my idea of a perfect body image is better than yours” “Everyone has a perfect body” and a million other things about how everyone should embrace their body no matter what.

In many ways, I agree. Everyone has a different body, and no one should be shamed in such a way that they feel they have to harm themselves in order to look better. Additionally, everyone deserves to find love from anyone they love. Fat, thin, in shape, out of shape, whatever.

However:

There are quite a few of us out there who work our asses off to be in shape. We do so for a lot of different reasons, some such as myself do so because of a particular career, others because they want to look a certain way, others because they want to be healthy, and still others just because they enjoy it. We also come in all shapes and sizes. Take a walk around my gym during a random point in the day and you will see a whole variety of different body types.

We are also entitled to fall for whomever we find attractive. The thing is, that as with most people, what we find attractive about someone usually has to do with what we value in a significant other. This (for most people) relates to what we value about ourselves. As anyone who works to stay in shape will tell you, it becomes a large part of your life. Ergo, it is often something you value greatly, and thereby value in someone else. 

So, I guess what I’m saying is that anyone is entitled to be attracted to anyone. However, for a lot of people who care about being in shape, they’re going to want someone who also values staying in shape. To put it simply, I demand a lot of myself physically, it’s a big part of who I am, and my life in general. Is it really so hard to understand that I would need someone who also values that?

Bleh. I’m just saying, some of us work damn hard on our bodies, excuse us if we ask the same of our significant others.

I’m not sure how I’m going to survive this week…

Agression Containment is a virtue.